Vilomah (parents who has lost a child): 01 (Historia real)

Description

Having to write from the deepest pain inside you is very difficult. Throughout your life you may go through unpleasant situations and moments and decide to suppress them instead of facing them to avoid suffering more. Sometimes it means creating a mental barrier that can block and suppress you in your daily life. It ends up affecting your energy center (chakra) and making you wonder if it is worth continuing to fight. In this book we narrate our experience with the heartbreaking reality of the death of our little girl Madelaine. I couldn’t help asking myself many questions: How to accept that a child leaves before you to the place we call Heavenly Earth? Why couldn’t they save my daughter with all the medical advances out there? How can you deal with guilt and your conscience? Can it affect your relationship as a couple and as parents? Why did my daughter leave, what have I done to deserve such punishment? Life is like that, a continuous struggle for improvement and acceptance. Whatever happens, you must move on. There came a time when we were filled with anger and we questioned our own faith and even turned our backs on it. I stopped believing in God despite having been lucky enough to overcome many difficulties, but in those moments, everything become little compared to that great mountain of pain. My wife and I have gone through very complicated times such as illnesses, deaths, in addition to many other things, even so, we got through it together as a family. With the twins we were the happiest parents in the world, always with a smile and a lot of love between us. But the death of our daughter Madelaine made us Vilomah parents with a devastating blow. As my dear father commented to me with a touch of humor, “we all carry a cross in this life or two or three or more, but it is up to us if we want to carry them with dignity.” We have to learn to walk with it and move on. We have made this book with the hope that it will serve as self-help for those who are suffering or have suffered the loss of a loved one.